Grateful Aging and the Role of Elders

 

“None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiasm. Keep gratitude in your heart, and you stay young at any age.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

 

There comes a point in our life when the realization occurs that we’re older now than the people we thought were elderly in years prior. You may be in that position now or will be soon, if you catch yourself at Thanksgiving asking, “Where did the years go… and how is it that I’m the elder now?”

 

Throughout history, elders have held esteemed positions as the wisdom keepers and guiding forces in the community. In traditional societies from Native American tribes to ancient African and Asian cultures, they were the central pillars of family and society; revered not only for their knowledge, but also for their life experience and ability to offer guidance, solve disputes and pass on cultural traditions. The wisdom of elders shaped the values and decisions of society through storytelling, ritual and mentorship of the young.

 

But our technologically driven world often overlooks the vital role of elders. As change accelerates, new generations tend to look outward for guidance from novel digital sources rather than inward to the lived experience of those that came before them. Still, the role of wise elders is more important than ever. Authors such as Darcia Narvaez and G.A. Bradshaw, in The Evolved Nest: Nature’s Way of Raising Children and Creating Connected Communities, emphasize the importance of connectedness and nurturing relationships in building resilient communities. They argue that elders, by means of their accumulated wisdom, are critical to nurturing these bonds.

 

Cheryl Richardson, in her book Self-Care for the Wisdom Years: Practical Ways to Celebrate the Mystery and Wonder of Aging, highlights ways the aging process offers unique opportunities for reflection, self-care and gratitude. Aging, she suggests, brings clarity and appreciation for life’s gifts, allowing elders to embrace their role as spiritual and emotional anchors within society.

 

In any context, elders have the potential to foster greater gratitude and connection. As we enter this season of giving thanks, it is worth considering how to reimagine the role of elders—not as passive onlookers, but essential participants in cultivating wisdom, resilience and gratitude across all generations.

 

Let’s do our best to exhibit or embrace the lessons and perspectives of elders to help each other navigate the complexities of modern life with deeper awareness and appreciation, as we all strive to feel good, live simply and laugh more.